It is time we normalize talking about poop. If you really think about it our bowel movements are a way to tell what is going on in our bodies much like vital signs and menstrual cycles.
We learn at a young age that everyone poops in awesome books like: Everybody Poops. But then we learn to be ashamed of what happens in the bathroom. Some people will shame, blame or humiliate us for doing what our bodies are supposed to do daily: poop! Where that cruelty comes from I have no idea and I wish I knew how to stop it!
It saddens and frustrates me when I hear people making fun of others based on their poop habits, smells, noises or anything related. This is uncalled for and in my opinion a form of bullying. Pooping isn't sexy or cute but it is important and if you have a gut disease where pooping can be scary and unpleasant you likely understand what I am talking about. This includes people making fun of smelly farts or fart noises and includes comments being made in public restrooms. Everyone knows it smells lady you don't need to embarrass someone that is likely hurting more than you. KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!!!!
Getting comfortable talking about your poop at a minimum with your medical provider is the first place to start. If your provider doesn't know what is going on then they can't help you. Then if you are feeling brave when you feel the time is right talk about it with your friends, family and significant others. Sometimes I ask my boyfriend about his poop experiences because he doesn't have IBD. I might ask something like, "does your abdomen hurt after you poop?" I am asking because that happens to me and I wanted to know if that happens to people without gut issues. The answer was no by the way.
Other times poop can come up in conversation when it comes to what I will or will not eat. Especially when I am out of town there are certain foods I will avoid for I am afraid they will give me diarrhea. I am way more open about telling people this now than I was when I was first diagnosed so don't expect to get comfy with poop talk overnight. Everyone poops and most everyone has likely experienced diarrhea in their life time so I give people the truth. Not only does that get folks to stop questioning my decision making but maybe it will help them relate and learn more about IBD.
So next time poop comes up in a conversation...don't be afraid to share your journey with pooping. You just might help someone else with out even knowing it! Happy pooping.